Page Boy Terry

Terry was getting his duty as a ring bearer cum page boy on my church sis's wedding on 20.09.2009. Finally, it all went on well and I really proud of my baby. This was his first time and I'm actually more nervous than him.

Way back in 3 weeks time I already start prepared him for the job, told him about it and keep pasturing the word PAGE BOY. Every night after our night prayer, I will practice the walk with him (sometimes with a small pillow representing the ring pillow) by humming the standard wedding prelude. At times, he refused to do it and cry, also when shopping for his attire, try fitting on him, he not really happy with it.

May be the color of the attire is not attractive to him as he was not wear on plain black and white outfit before. My mum even asked me to push away the job, since he cannot co-operate, but it is not too nice as the day was near and also I take this as a challenge for him to get him discipline and do something. I trusted Terry he can perform it and I submitted him and the job to God for his willingness to do this.

Besides that, I even created a playlist with 12 video clips in YouTube related to church wedding march, page boys and flower girls and get him to watch, like one of this.


He even laughed at some and say page boy, cute..LOL! I also brought out the Precious Moment doll for him to play, to show him the handsome attire and ask him to wear like the doll. Actually I'm not allow him to play all this while, just because of the job, I gave him the right permission to touch it. It was the wedding doll set put on my wedding car back then.

As the days draw near, he no longer showed his unwillingness and rejection. Whenever he saw his costume and shoe, he will happily say page boy, page boy. I’m much relieve when I hearing that. On the Friday rehearsal night, I got him to wear the full costume and also I prepared some sweets to bribe him just in case he gets cranky.

Full costume ring bearer

So far so good, on the rehearsal night he was quite co-operate with few times practice on the walking from the entrance to the front stage. I keep accompanied beside him and I got all kinds of thought, what if the actual day he not sees me, cry, refuse to walk or walk half way run towards to stage and shout for mummy. Well couldn’t care that much, just let him do it and put faith in God and trust that the boy can do it.

On the actual day, supposed he got 1 hour time to nap at home after lunch at 1.45pm, but he just couldn’t sleep and keep tossing. I was thinking that the short nap at least he can rest and regain his energy for the program later. When he couldn’t sleep, I started to get more nervous. Don’t care just go ahead and dress him up. In the car can see his tiredness already. The wedding ceremony delayed till 4pm to start. In those waiting time, he actually started to look for something, wants me to carry and pull me in and out. I know he wants his nap already, also he was just recovered from sick few days ago, still got a bit of running nose. I kept him inside the toy room, talk to him and kept bribe with sweets, just to stay put him till everything over.

The worst was the bow tie, passed to me just before the wedding march starts (long story, won't be sharing here). Almost end up with big fuss when putting it on the boy. Luckily he didn't and I kept distract him with more toys and sweets. So much after long waiting, it starts.

There were many cameras and camera flashes facing in front of him. As he walks towards the front, the camera-man still stand there to snap snap blocking his way to walk forward. I got to asked them to make way for the page boys and flower girls. It was actually a bit havoc down the aisle as there were narrow walk way and too many ppl standing in front and also in the march queue. I accompanied him walk in the beginning by standing besides the audience chair and ask my dad to continue guide him to the front half down the red carpet. He walked without looking back and very steady till to the front stage.

Phew~ I totally relieved by then for that 5 minutes job, it done really well. While waiting in the front seat for the couple to march in, Terry played with the ribbon on the ring pillow and he accidentally dropped one of the gold ring on the floor. Luckily I was there with him and I heard it was dropped, quickly I picked it up and pass it to the groom's relative to keep. When the couple comes up to front, I brought the boy back to the toy room knowing that he couldn’t sit still for the rest of the time. I kept him there till the ceremony over and when Pastor announced the newly wed, I brought him out again to the march leading by the couple. I don't have any video or more pics to show now during the march. I was just too busy managing the boy's march. Mostly are with the photographer. Hopefully I got a set later, just look out in my Facebook for updates.

I left the church at 5.10pm after the ceremony ended to give time for the boy to rest as the night 7.30pm was the wedding dinner. We not stay for the photo session later. The boy dozed off immediately once got in to the car. Once back home, quickly shower him and put him to nap. He managed to nap for 45 mins only then wake him up to go dinner.


He was all charged up by then and he was well-behave throughout the dinner. I brought along some stickers for him to play. The dinner was held in Thean Hou Temple's Hall with 88 tables. The dishes were great just the service was bad. The dinner last till 11pm.